PS: long post ahead with pregnancy and delivery details…
This post has been wanting to be written from a long time, I have read a lot of C-sect stories at The Mad momma and some other bloggers too, then some time back I read these posts by a reasontowrite, her posts stuck a chord and I thought of writing my birth story too… But then I was also running away from the thought, I didnt want to think of all that horror… and now after thinking a lot on what to write for the Indus Ladies Mother’s Day contest I decided on this one.
SO this one is going to be entry to there too
Every bit of my pregnancy was planned… we had been trying for sometime and when we got the news I was on the seventh heaven, top of the world. Would touch and feel my stomach 100 times a day and we were both a very happy couple… But then within a week of getting to know the good news started the morning sickness, which should please for heaven’s sake stopped being called that as it just starts on mornings and lasts all day long, sigh….
I was still adjusting to that when I saw some spots of blood and my heart skipped multiple beats, I immediately called my doc and the 5 mins that it took for her to attend to me felt like the longest period in my life… she told me if its only spots there is nothing to worry and prescribed me some medicines… and life went on…
About 1 month later the horror stuck again, in the wee hours of the morning I woke up feeling wet in the legs and we rushed to the hospital, the nurses and docs were quick to give medication and the bleeding was stopped in some 20 mins which was not very heavy anyways… but I was kept in hospital for about 4 days and put on bed rest for a month post that, after what had happened… I was ready to be on bed rest forever if that was what meant saying my baby’s life.
My mom was summoned from Delhi and hence started the bed rest pampering sessions, still accompanied my crazy so called morning sickness, it had become a joke in my house that if I was not to be seen on my bed I could be found in the loo puking… there was hardly anything that would stay inside me apart from IceCreams and I had loads and loads of it…
And as this was going on in 10 days the horror stuck yet again…and this time with a greater strength, suddenly out of the blue I started bleeding like crazy, N was traveling and mom didnt know to drive… so the neighbors were summoned and we rushed to hospital yet again.. By the time we reached there the bleeding had increased even further, the medication was given and we were asked to wait and warned that the chances of my baby’s survival are 50-50%, my heart broke, my mom held my hand tight and I didnt want to let her go… I guess she understood what I was going through… N had also reached by then and I just broke down when I saw him and cried like crazy, had no strength to deal with it anymore…By this time the assistant doc had announced that there are lumps and baby parts coming out and the baby is surely gone, the doc will come early in the morning and do a DnC… I think that was the worst night of my life… both me and N were holding each other’s hand and crying all through… I had lost the most precious thing of my life
Early morning the routine OT duties were done and I was taken to the OT for DnC… I touched my stomach one last time to feel my baby… the doc held my hand, ran a hand through my hair and I cried yet again… Anyhow I was given GA and then after couple of hours dazed I woke to see my doc’s brimming face telling me that the baby is fine… For a minute I thought I am dreaming, that I am still unconscious under GA and dreaming about my lost baby but then the doc came and touched my head and I could a small tear in the corner of her eye too…She said no monika the baby is really alive and this time I cried truck loads but they were the tears of happiness…
How the baby was saved is a mystery still, my doc came to the OT and saw that the cervix was closed and felt tight, she did a scan, called N in and they both saw baby’s heartbeat… and she came out of the OT without doing anything… My doc calls Ojas a Miracle Baby… she says that in her 40 yrs of career this is the first time she has seen this happening…. May be God wanted us to have him… He is truly a blessing
The rest of 6 months were spent, lying on bed taking medications day in day out, constantly praying that everyday passes without an accident, prepared for a premie baby and everything else that I even shudder to think about. There were days I would feel sad and depressed with nothing to fret but my child’s well being. Will he be born ok? Will he survive the term? If he is premie how will it turn out to be? Will this effect his health, his brain, his heart?
Somehow I stretched it to 37 weeks, had a scheduled C-sect, which I dont regret a bit… I am proud of my scar that’s where my miracle baby came from…
I wonder why women back such a big deal of normal vs c-sect delivery… because I didnt go through labor doesnt make a less good mom just as the fact I had a difficult pregnancy doesnt make a better mom
Motherhood is much more than some hours of labor and delivery infact motherhood is much more than those 9 months… motherhood is a lifetime of commitment, of love, of sacrifice, of braveness and of many more feeling I am yet to encounter.
Motherhood is what makes me complete
PS: cross posted at ojas’ blog for the record
PPS: ritu asked me to add the link again http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/phoenixritu/mothers-day-competition-1717/
Goofy Mumma said:
God bless this lovely family. Ojas was meant to come to you and he did, against all odds.
areason2write said:
That must have been the scariest, worst, and best day of your life. Thanks for sharing your story. I am with you – a baby is a gift – no matter how it is delivered! Big hugs to you and that beautiful miracle of yours.
ugich konitari said:
I almost didnt want to read further at one point. Then I was glad that I did. What an amazing experience ….Some One Up There, was surely looking after you that day….my best wishes to you and your family…
Swaram said:
It really brings tears to anyone’s eyes. He sure is a miracle baby and you a brave Mom!
All the best for the contest.
Rohini said:
That is some birth story and a miraculous one too!!!
Ritu said:
Monika add a link to the announcement page. We need a link back to Indusladies
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/phoenixritu/1717
Ritu said:
Add this link to the post Monika
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/phoenixritu/mothers-day-competition-1717/
Ignore the previous one I sent
Solilo said:
Monika, I love reading birth stories. Everyone’s is so different and yet all of us connect in a way.
You have a beautiful family and Ojas is a real cutie. Don’t ever bother what people have to lecture on C-section and normal. Even after normal delivery I know someone who told me that since I took pain medication during delivery I didn’t endure much pain like “normal” mothers.
God bless the Ojas family.
Iya said:
and u made me cry.. god bless this lovely family..
Aathira said:
That was so scary for me.. can not imagine what you went through.
God bless Ojas, N and you!
Avaran said:
i guess every mom has a story to tell…. my sister th third of mom’s ceasarians (which apparently is a miracle, 3 ceasarians) was supposed to be mentally affected bcos of some medications mom took… this was i think mid way thru her pregnancy… but somehow after being advised to abort her, mom finally decided to go ahead and have her, bcos she said that she didn have th right to terminate life… (oh, thats a point for the pro-life people)
hmm well, as it turned out, my sister is 15, and she is in a lot of ways more mentally sharp than us guys, but the best part was when she came out, she looked like a perfect angel… like, that beautiful.. i was 8 then….
God always has a reason… and we’re all sure that God has some special role for her, all of us actually, in the world..
Mama - Mia said:
🙂
god! he seems worth the pain, your l’il prince!
and yup, its always been beyond me, the big deal about natural birth! chalta hai!
loved reading thsi and could feel my heart beat fster at every complication you spoke about…
hugs
abha
Swati said:
ohh monika ..you left me crying..God bless you all !
pujathakur said:
Amazing – and beautiful too…
God bless you (and the entire family)..
Luv,
Puja
Monika said:
@GM,
ya thats true… and thank god for that
Monika said:
@Swaram,
thanks
Monika said:
@Swati,
😦 thanks
Monika,Ansh said:
I am all soggy eyed reading your post. What a miraculous story.
God bless Ojas & mommy.
hitchwriter said:
Lovely…. need to take a print and get my wife to read this… I m sure she will be able to relate with this a lot more than me…
Avaran said:
hey thats fine… im cool abt it… like, i wanted to collect some opinion to write a follow up post… but anyway now im not feeling very inclined..
Sue Gir said:
Oh MY! It was really really touching. No doubt there was a drop of tear in the doctor’s eyes too. After all these days I’m reading this post linked back from your new one, and I should say I controlled my tears with the best effort.
God bless your baby. How old is he now? Do I find that out by reading more of your past posts?
BTW, thanks for stopping by my blog 🙂 Hope you enjoyed reading my posts!
monikamanchanda said:
thanks sue.. he is 17 months now, u can read all about him here http://ourprinceojas.blogspot.com/ might move this to WP too but then there will be an announcement made
oh ya i loved reading ur blog
the mad momma said:
oh God… she’s right. he IS a miracle. a miracle of love and faith. God bless you for sharing this…
monikamanchanda said:
thanks MM and pleasure to have ur here 🙂
CA said:
Truly amazing story told here … best wishes to your family !
monikamanchanda said:
thanks CA and pleasure to have ur here 🙂
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Indyeah said:
This is so tough to read Mon…more so because I have met Ojas..that cute bundle of energy is truly your miracle baby.Muah for the cutiepie…thinking about him makes me smile:) His demands to be put on the joyrides:) that was cute to watch..then searching for him in the restaurant…the way he was in his own merry world…*touchwood*
((((((((hugs))))))))) God bless Ojas and his parents.
monikamanchanda said:
thanks and hugs back darling
u know we miss u here
starsinmeyes said:
That was scaaaaaaary. I really wish babies had a cellphone in there so we could call often and ask “Are you doing ok in there?” Glad you all survived the trauma. Waking up and hearing the good news must have made the sun shine brighter that day, eh? 🙂
monikamanchanda said:
phew thats an idea a real idea…
I really can’t describe any of the feelings that day from an absolute low to what an high and disbelief
bukvorm said:
*hugs* Mon, thats all I can say right now..
monikamanchanda said:
hugs right back at ya
shilpadesh said:
Hugs to you.
I agree, the type of delivery does not make the experience any less of an ordeal.
I went through 8 hours of labor, 3 hours of pushing AND a c-section to my baby out! Of course epidural was an good friend 🙂
monikamanchanda said:
phew hugs must have been an ordeal
Richa said:
Some days when we have lost all hope God steps in and proves that HE does exists! and is taking care of us.
Beautifully told, Monica! Alll the best for the contest. 🙂
monikamanchanda said:
thanks a lot rhicha, this is in a old post, the contest is done with 🙂
Swaram said:
Beautiful Mons! And much luv to our adorable miracle baby! He is such a sweetheart! And loads of hugs to u 😀
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artsycraftsymom said:
I never knew! Hugs. Monika.. He is a miracle baby. How scary that must have been. and look at him now! Big hug to u n ojas.
Sunita(Poppy) said:
Reading this again today.. Happy Birthday Ojas!
S said:
Hi Very touched to read this post…I have gone thru the same not once but twice !!! Blessed with two lovely miracle babies back to back 🙂