I have been trying to wean Ojas from the bottle to the sipper and the other day when I came back from the office the communication looked something like this:
ME : did he had milk in the evening?
Maid: yes didi
ME : sipper main ya bottle?
Maid : (fumbling) nahin sipper nahin piya
ME : did u give sipper first
MIL : ya she gave he was refusing… crying
Then later in the night conversation with maid
ME : did u mix horlics with milk when u gave in the sipper?
Maid : sipper?????
ME : evening u gave sipper na???
Maid : (badly fumbling…)haan voh haan voh
ME : (scolding already…. )sipper diya tha ki nahin???????
Maid : nahin madam aaj nahin diya
Post this explained to her calmly that its ok if u do anything wrong but dont lie etc and why I am trying
But my problem is not that, can someone explain WHY MY MIL LIED??????
I am speechless and hurt….
why do mil’s trust maids more than their own DIL’s???????
LOL:), dont get it wrong, not at the hurt, but because I face the same thing so many times:)so typical of MIL’s, mine will trust an uneducated and my helper more than me, rather anybody other than me is more intelligent:), but i never let it bother me at all:)
I wish I knew the answer to your last question.
sweety…I know that this will probably be against the trend of comments you receive on this…but for a moment will you think about the fact that MIL might just have been trying to spare you a bit of stress for something she thinks kids learn on their own anyways.
Our moms and their ilk didnt stress as much about rearing kids as we do…hence maybe the need for that lil lie…
no answer from my side. Sometimes they ae like that and we just have to live with it.
Dont get tensed, it may take some time and ojas will start taking from the sipper.
After reading ur post, i am wondering why they do this to there d-law.I had a similar exp with my m-law.I told my maid to come on friday(which is a holiday here)She told her not to come, knowing that i told her to come.I was waiting for the maid on friday and she didnt tell me that she told her not to come.When maid turned up next day, i asked her why u didnt come, atleast u should have told me that u r not coming, she slowly told me ur m-law told me not to come.Now what i will say?
Very difficult to make kids drink from the sipper.when i stopped giving bottle, my kid stopped drinking milk, again i gave her bottle she started drinking (till she is 3 she drank in the bottle)now she is 5 and drinks in a fav mug
@renu,
i know what u mean… fail to understand why they do it and i glad for u that u have finally adjusted bothers me a lot
@varunavi,
nothing we say dear.. apart from cribbing and that makes me even sad… fail to understand when the dil will be considered a part of the family
ya i know kids are so attached to the bottles I am ready for a long fight 🙂
bad thing, especially because it is about trust. Hope you sort out out with the maid, I think that is easier than with your MIL.
MIL can be weird sometimes! hopefully she wont do it again!
i give Cubby milk with katori n chamach and am still struggling with glass!
then i keep thinking he wont be 20 and having ilk n paani from katori! :p so its okie! i wish i remembered that when i get upset with him though!
cheers!
abha
@PG,
thats the whole point… trust is very fragile thing…
ya did talk to my maid regarding this… hope it doesnt repeat
@Mama – Mia,
u have great patience yaar… spoon… i would never be able to do that