on the 28th day, right in the last leg of the NaBloPoMo.. sigh but I am not sad. We had a blast of a day yesterday and I forgot all about the post till late in the night and that time I decided that’s its ok I will probably do two tomorrow than get on the laptop at that time…
Imp’s Mom is here along with Imp and we are all bonding here, me and her and Ojas and imp, the house at any point of time feels like a play ground where they both want to jump around and show us look we are jumping everytime they do, I wonder whats with the need of constant appreciation in kids these days. If I recall my growing up, I don’t think I was told very good, well done every so often but here the case is not like that.
I used to initially think its just Ojas but as I meet more kids I feel its the same everywhere. These days the kids want to be seen and appreciated every single minute when we are around them. For something as simple as finishing food to something which is actually praise worthy like finishing a puzzle or such. I have a constant expression ready on my face, a mixture of amusement and happiness for such situations 😉 I guess its more to do with the parenting style these days, the time we spend with them. The fact that they are mostly alone around. No 10 cousins running around and playing together and encouraging each other, no grandparents around… what do u think?
But I often wonder whether this is ok for them. Will it make them use to of getting so much appreciation all them time and how will it affect them when they grow up?
PS: Ojas is doing well those concerned ones, thanks for the mails, sms and comments. The doc said its nothing serious and we are both doing fine now.
Gosh, we tried very hard not to have parents around. Our parents were kill joys. I longed to have parents like those I read about in Enid Blytons, the ones that dumped you in boarding schools and sent you to summer camps.
LOL, typical Ritu wala comment 🙂
I agree, Monika. I think it has more to do with the lifestyle now. Today with the nuclear family set up so predominant, our kids dont get to be around cousins and grandparents as often as probably you and I would have been in our growing up days. Because of which our kids feel this constant need of attention and acknowledgement from us parents.
You and Ojas have a great sunday with Imp’s Mom & Imp! 🙂
Hmm u hv a point there 🙂
Glad u r hvng fun!
Iya Bhatia Malhotra said:
hmm, monika, not just kids, i think even adults have become like that, everybody is looking for constant appreciation, assurance..
Definitely a part of our ‘one child family’ culture. Kids need and demand attention, and since we have only one kid, we parents also tend to indulge them. Not sure if this is good or bad, but as far as I am concerned, I think as long as we do not spoil the kid and say ‘You are the BEST’ and things like that, and only concentrate on things like ‘Wow, you concentrate so well’ I think it will boost the child’s confidence and motivate him/her to do better, rather than build a huge ego.
Missing a post is forgivable given the fact u were having a gr8 time with ur frnd and Ojas with his. 🙂