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I have read tons and tons of Birth Stories and I love reading them… Absolutely heart them but somehow I haven’t read many of the wedding stories around π apart from ofcourse the lovely and most hilarious account by Ritu of her elder son’s wedding written in true Ritu style π
As most of us know our dear friend Prats is the latest one to get into the wedding routine and just before he was going for his wedding, we were chatting on how difficult it is to get married and here I just mean the ceremony what happens next my friends most of you know πΒ Tons of people to keep happy, both bride and groom have some rituals and way of doing things and man it is such tamasha most of the times… While we were discussing all this Prats asked me about my story and how we met etc… though that is something I dont want to put on the blog… let me share with u what happened in the ceremony which was truly bound to be a true blue 2-state kind of wedding… A loud and fun loving typical punjabi family meets a very simple and conservative Telugu people….
So here this post is specially for you Prats… wishing u a very happy and long married life ahead and hoping to hear a lot of stories about your wedding when you are back now that u are already back
As I mentioned above ours is a mixed culture marriage and the first meeting that parents had both of us were very clear that we are headed for troubleβ¦ I had seen a Bengali and Telugu marriage gone crazy and all that happened at the wedding was arguments on what should be done how, inspite of the fact that they had two weddings and all I could remember was that marriage when we were talking about the formalities to be done. And as far as N is concerned the smaller the ritual the better for himβ¦ the best that would have worked for him would have been Court Marriage but alas the parents didnβt give in to that.
With all the above in mind and also the fact that wedding was to be held in Bangalore and my parents lived in Delhi⦠Also the fact that N just has a sister who is always running madly busy with her office, home and kids and whose views on anything religious or ritual are a 180 degree opposite from N, we both decided to take the wedding arrangements in our hand. And I think I am yet to meet another couple who has done that.
6 months of wedding planning was totally tiring but what fun it wasβ¦ I think it brought us closer as a couple. We took some major decisions together as a couple, we started to understand the likes and dislikes (said and unsaid) of each other deeplyβ¦ Where will the wedding be, what kind the wedding be, what will be the menu, the reception, the person who will do the mandap, the person who will decorate the car basically all decisions were taken by us were taken by constantly consulting elders π and being together
We had all the numbers the details of everything and the day before wedding we were like enough is enough… we need to enjoy our own wedding π and thought of handing over the stuff to various people around…. so the duties were handed over… most went off well but a few were really memorable….
The wedding was supposed to happen at 10:45am in the morning… gosh for a punjabi family its a crazy time… we can’t imagine getting up so early, gossiping (yeah thats the most important part of a wedding whether you agree or not π ), dancing (a punjabi wedding infact nothing punjabi can’t happen without it), the various ceremonies list go on… all of us were freaked out (ofcourse I had made peace with it as I had searched to 10 parlors who will make me ready by 8:30 am as a result I had a parlor far far away from the venue )… After the elders cribbing and making it peace with it… lot of cranky sleep deprived souls, we had slept at like am in the night after a rocking mehendi night (but thats another post)…. hey did I tell you that sleeping early in the night is the biggest crime one can make in Panju wedding π we started at about 6 in the morning for the ceremonies… and about 7 a very dear friend P (u are reading dear?) and my uncle N were packed off to the venue to oversee the mandap making arrangements and a family friend R took me to the far far away parlor…
I reached the parlor and got a lashing for being a late and was hurried to the chair to get decked up… and ting the cell starts ringing, its P saying the flower guy hasn’t turned up π :shocked:
P: Monika the flower guy hasn’t turned
Me : shouting what??????????????
Parlor Aunty : sit straight, I am doing your hair
Me : :ignoring her: What are you saying, what do u mean he has not come? the mandap should be almost ready by now…
P: yeah thats why I called you and he is not picking my call
Me : shouting louder giving the PL heart attack… what?????????????????????
PL : sit straight the makeup will all go bad..
Friend R : very sweetly and caringly give the phone to me let me talk, I will settle the matter
Me : ok whatever
After two minutes R explained P to call N (uff what drama it is becoming) and try and do something and PL started working on beautifying me again and just that the cell rang and this time it was N
With a deep breath and a resolve to keep calm and I picked up the phone
N : the flower guy is not picking up the phone, should we get married without mandap..
there he broke my resolve of keeping calm… π¦
Me : what do u mean? do u know what you are saying
By this time theΒ PL had given on me and just stood staring me…and I like gestured her to give me 5 minutes to settle all this…
After 15 mins of crazy calls from 3 people to the flower guy he picked up the call and said he will come in 15 mins… he was drunk and out sleeping or so he said…
He arrived after 30 minutes and when people reached the venue the mandap was still getting build… Gosh… there was a flower chaadar he was supposed to bring along for me to walk under to the mandap and that was getting weaved… the state of mom’s tension is something I can’t even describe…Β and the minute I arrived at the venue and looked at N both of us broke in a laughter and I had well meanings aunts asking me to shatup and the other side aunt’s give me stares as if N is marrying a mentally retarded girl
Meanwhile another friend A was assigned the task of bringing the pandit to the hall at the correct time (BTW did I mention I got married by a female pandit, doesn’t it rock) and he got late by about 20 minutes which created another scene of panic in the hall as for my sil the mahuratam time (the time to put the mangalsutra) was like something which should not be missed at all and the time period for that mahurtam was exaclty 5 mins… giving everyone of us heart attacks…
Luckily by the time the pandit arrived, the mandap was also starting to look a little mandap ready…. and my sil was ok lets get started that came another problem… none of my brothers or sisters had arrived at the venue, they were in the car which was stuck in infamous Bangalore traffic and they are the ones who was to hold the flower chaadar and take me to the mandap… makeshift brothers were called (basically anyone who was around and male I thank God no one picked N to hold the chaadar) and I was taken to the mandap and the ceremony begin… with uncle N wearing his night dress and P going off home to get ready…
Hey hold don’t go away there is more π 15 minutes into the ceremony and the mandap fell… can u beat that? this time my brothers who couldn’t bring me to the mandap had to pay for their mistakes and hold the four mandap pillars all through the ceremony π Man it was funny… we should have been tensed but I remember seeing them and a result burst out laughing ok ok I controlled myself π π
As if all that was not enough we were missing the mahuratum time resulting a very itchy and upset sil for whom it was a question of everything going wrong if we missed that which resulted in her having a brilliant brain wave… what if we skipped all other rituals and jumped directly to the mangalsutra… ok we can’t jump fine lets just do it after the mangalsutra ha ha ha and there started a huge argument again… between my sil and the female pandit…. and let me warn you when two females are in argument everyone should stay away π what sill wanted to do, the pandit will not allow to happen in anycase being a strong Arya Samajain for whom steps are so important… and after a long argument and lot of people using their brain it was just decided that we will keep quiet and do nothing in those 5 minutes.. yay u got it… just sit and yeah pray π
uff what a day that was… at the end of it all we were both just glad it was over… and on this day I have just one suggestion to give u all
WHATEVER YOU DO FOLKS NEVER EVER ARRANGE YOUR OWN WEDDING AND IF YOU BE READY TO FACE MUSIC π
Edited to Add : I absolutely loved GM’s idea of converting it into a tag… so here it goes… Guys make me proud by making me a creater of a tag he he
Rules
- Narrate your whole wedding story or any one incident of the wedding that you remember the most…
- Link me up… yes I want to read as much of them me is greedy π
- Link the person who tagged u… (I am hoping it will move to the second level)
- Tag another 5 people
So here are the people I tag
- Dhiren : yeah go ahead and satisfy your itching fingers
- Sups : I want to know whether that rs 500 helped π
- Goofy : Now you were the one who suggested it right π
- Dee : because they are another couple who arranged the wedding and it went smoothly but there will a lot of interesting stories I am sure
- Ritu : she has some secrets in her closet lets get them out π
Also BlogAdda has showered me with some love again and this post has been picked for the Spicy Saturday… thank u folks… u rock π
Swaram said:
First π
Swaram said:
LOL .. I shud hv read this post n then seen the pics π The mantap falling ha ha ha π
Swaram said:
Finally, what did the PL say π Did she really get u ready π
Swaram said:
The female pandit thing is superb Monu .. awesome π
monikamanchanda said:
yeah she had no option dear she had taken a advance from me and thankfully she wasn’t as irresponsible as the flower guy who had taken the advance too
monikamanchanda said:
yeah yeah go see the pics now and u will see the brothers holding the mandap π
monikamanchanda said:
yeah u are first π
hitchwriter said:
the gods gave so many signals to N to abstain… but sigh !!!!!!!!
bhagooooooooooooooooooo !!!!!!!!
monikamanchanda said:
why just him? to me too yaar π but we both were mad at that time… in action replay now we will think and may be run away π
hitchwriter said:
you know even i planned my whole wedding… me and my friends were the ones who did all the arrangements… and infact what all my friends and I feel is we enjoyed it the most… coz we all were together… and doing something.. most other weddings we have had the dad’s do the thing and it is so boring to be following instructions… in our wedding and i think i ll put a post on it.. it was everything done totally by me and my friends and it was amazing fun… !!!! you are giving me a real idea to post… suddenly my blog aching fingers are active !!!!!!!1
Swaram said:
Ha ha .. gud one π
monikamanchanda said:
yeah I know what u mean I totally enjoyed the whole thing as I have said but that flower guy uff that should never ever happen to anyone I tell u π
and me waiting for that post… actually wait let me convert this into a tag as GM suggested needless to say u will be tagged π π
Smita said:
hehehe what a roller coaster ride it was!!! Mandap fell?? hehehe…:D
But your advice is just right!! Wedding is something which shud be enjoyed & u shud be pampered!!
monikamanchanda said:
yeah have u ever heard that one before the mandap fell π
Prats said:
Thanks a lot for the warm welcome. As soon as I read the title I knew this gonna be a great post and it had something to do with the chat we had the other day, and without doubt it is.
I still can’t believe actually your brothers were holding the Mandap. ROFL!!!!
You know couple of females who seem to have conflicting ways on how wedding rituals take place seem to be a common factor in all Indian weddings.
Btw I agree with N on smaller the rituals better it is π
I will be coming with my wedding stories very soon π
monikamanchanda said:
yeah if those females are not there then its not a indian wedding *full stop* π looking forward to those posts
Dee said:
We arranged our own wedding and it really went off without a hitch. Thats’ because the DH and I are super organized to the point of having OCD’s π
The only thing I think I would not have done is had the Hindu wedding, Church wedding and the reception all on 1 day! I should have had the Church wedding earlier π
I know it was insane, but ur wedding sounds like sooper dooper fun.. Chaos brings couples together π
monikamanchanda said:
what u did 2 weddings and the reception on the same day, am i already fainting π
and I agree with that statement
chroniclesofdee said:
Done!! come on over π
Tara said:
female pundit and ur brothers holding the mandap pillars all thru the ceremony got me rofl’ing … what a hilarious wedding account monu.. i loved reading it every bit..
monikamanchanda said:
thanks tara glad u enjoyed reading it
Pixie said:
ROTFL!!
I can never get enough of this story!! I think this is the second time I’m hearing it and it’s still funny!!!
The scene of your brothers holding the mantap is very funny!! π π
monikamanchanda said:
yeah I am sure if u hear it once again u will laugh again π
Phoenixritu said:
Sounds like it must be great fun ~ ~ in retrospect. You inspire me to spill some secrets out of my closet. Hmmmm may be I will
monikamanchanda said:
he he he so u will be tagged π π
Goofy Mumma said:
The mandap fell down? Are you serious??? That must have been SOMETHING. I wish I attended your wedding, would have something to remember. And reading this here, I remember, my wedding rituals, going shirt cut too! You should make this into a tag and pass this around Monu, we’ll have loads of fun stuff to read around.
monikamanchanda said:
gosh this is what u want to remember my wedding for sigh… gm i thought u are a friend π
and the tagging seems like a great idea let me do it
Aathira said:
I completely agree… you can never ever be a bride if you end up being a part of the arrangements!
monikamanchanda said:
yeah i know one needs to feel like a bride yaar
Smitha said:
Oh my goodness! That was one roller coaster wedding π It was so much fun to read – but am sure it must have been totally nerve wracking for you!
You know, relatives agruing with the pandit – I think it happens in loads of weddings! One of my relatvies had the reputation of getting involved in the ceremony and creating difficulties π So it reached a point where people used to discreetly take him away from the scene so that weddings could take place with minimal disruption π
That was totally fun to read, Monika π
monikamanchanda said:
ROFL smitha that is so funny really i am laughing out loud
supmm said:
OMG that must have been so funny – your brothers holding up the mandap π
I can’t even imagine that π
Maybe I should put up my wedding story too – a Punjabi & Bong mix with the mothers doing whatever they felt like & Arjun giving the pandits 500 bucks to speed up the process π
Meira said:
Go on…that should be fun π
monikamanchanda said:
yes darling u should do that it will be fun… i will tag u
Phoenixritu said:
Monika, the link you’ve given is the wrong one, that one is to my nephew”s wedding
monikamanchanda said:
ritu that is not a link to one post that is a link to all posts with tag wedding and the first one that comes up is ur nephew’s wedding… there are multiple posts to ur son’s wedding so I thought I will link up to the tag but I will update the links
Phoenixritu said:
LOL! Gosh the tag! Do I dare or not?! Let me think it over
monikamanchanda said:
glad u did it ritu I really enjoyed reading it
sraboneyghose said:
Oh, weddings! Thank god mine is done and over with…
Well, let me tell you what happened at mine…My dad, who was giving me ‘away’ (in West Bengali weddings, mothers are not allowed to watch the ceremony…It’s considered bad luck???), wanted to join his friends for some fun and laughter and so asked the pundit to hurry things up…In his haste, he forgot to make us take the pheras – we realized it about an hour later!
monikamanchanda said:
ROFL are u serious? u forgot the pheras??????????? did u finally did it or not
sraboneyghose said:
No, we didn’t ’cause both my husband and I couldn’t be bothered…We didn’t want to go thru all that again…We just didn’t tell my grandmom…
monikamanchanda said:
LOL
Meira said:
ROFL! That would have been one fun wedding π
I guess the inter caste weddings are the best…what with one side not knowing the others’ ways π
monikamanchanda said:
yes they are the most fun I think π
Bharti said:
HAHAHAHAHAHHA,…LOL
I cant believe it….absolutely worth remembering day for all reasons π
Excellent collection of the day’s events M… Totally wonderful. I am glad mine is long over… dont even remember half of it anymore π π π
monikamanchanda said:
i think I can never forget this day ever in my life… i got married is one reason the rest of the reasons I think will make it more unforgettable π
jaya said:
Well one more couple who arranged their wedding is me and M.
monikamanchanda said:
wow its so nice to meet atleast 3 people now who did the same me likes
Pal said:
OMG!! This was more heart racing than an action film!!! Going back to FB to see the pics again now, Mon π
monikamanchanda said:
LOL at action film π
umsreflections said:
ROFL !!! Monu, the ultimate wedding !!! π
Both of u did everything – and My God, what all mishaps for that day, starting with the flower guy till the 2 women arguing…. totally hilarious account to read now.
But, what were you feeling during that day ???? You shld be doubly tensed – one for getting married and for all the other things happening around you !!!!
monikamanchanda said:
he he he in all this I think I had forgotten that i am getting married and i should be tensed π
Swati said:
LOL..my neighbour is asking why I am laughing to myself ..ROFL !
monikamanchanda said:
see i told u guys u will be laughing out loud π
Homecooked said:
LOL….sounds like a Priyadarshan film wedding π As always it guaranteed a happy ending π
monikamanchanda said:
ROLF priyadarshan film… ha ha
Sri said:
How cute!:)
First time here..brought back memories of my wedding..as the muhurat was early morning and i couldnt go to a parlour that early,i had asked my dad’s sis to do my hair..she arrived very late and just managed to do something to my hair..when i bent down to receive something from the pujari,the flowers on my head fell down..some of my cousins managed to fix some hairpins but it was really bad!!
monikamanchanda said:
thanks sri π see i am telling u early morning weddings should be banned π
welcome here
Joe Zachs said:
First time hearing of a mandap falling (and oh yes first time here)
monikamanchanda said:
joe I think it would have happened in the first time π
welcome here
Nu said:
congratulations on Spicy Saturday pick up π
monikamanchanda said:
thanks nu and welcome here
Pal said:
Mon, congrats on the blogadda pick π
monikamanchanda said:
thanks dear Pal
Indyeah said:
LOL!!! Mon this is a hilarious read! This is what you were mentioning that day? π
Mandap falling, bros holding it up, gosh would have been a lot to take for anyone!
LOL@ noone picking up N to hold the chaadar! π
and punjus getting up for a morning wedding? π the thought is insane π
punju and telugu whatta combination! loved reading this Mon..enjoyed it completely!
monikamanchanda said:
yeah think of it N walking along with my bros and then at the last minute taking a big jump to reach to the mandap so that he can reach before I am ready to put jaimala
ROFL i am mad
Indyeah said:
I and PM sometimes think we should just elope π it’ll put a stop to all the crazy plannin going on
monikamanchanda said:
i strongly reco that dear before time runs away π
Preeti Shenoy said:
ha ha ha ha π
Really enjoyed reading this!
what drama, what tension! π Most weddings aren’t complete without it π
Cheers
preeti
monikamanchanda said:
thanks preeti yeah wedding means drama π
shail said:
Hilarious Monika. I especially liked the part where your brothers became the four pillars of the mandap, Hahahha. Too funny!
monikamanchanda said:
he he he gla u liked it shail
shail said:
BTW, congrats on the Blogadda pick! π
monikamanchanda said:
thank u thank u
Goofy Mumma said:
Oops! I set my own trap here didn’t I???
monikamanchanda said:
he he he u did
Trish said:
LOL!!! Fun Fun!! Hillarious..can’t wait to read the other’s take on it!Ours was a mixed wedding too..and so I can totally relate to this!
monikamanchanda said:
he he why dont u also take up the tag dear?
hitchwriter said:
Congrats on the blog adda pick !!!!!!!!!!!!! π π π π fully deserved… I hope to do this as soon as possible !!!!!!!! but jus have one chick to train who is here to replace me so you see I am quite BUSY !!!! π π π π π
monikamanchanda said:
yeah yeah i know u are busy mr… and correctly so π
Aarti said:
Congrats on the BlogAdda pick… and cool post indeed..think i read it earlier thru Twitter [ did you post the link there??] but couldnt comment…
whoaa…. Female pundit…
Whoaaa.. the mandap collapsed n men were holding it thru the ceremony…
whoaaa..!!
Amazing adventure is what ur wedding sounds like… π
I’ve helped some friends do their wedding and know the amt of chaos that goes into it… jeez… we go berserk… that too till the last minute!! uff…
monikamanchanda said:
yeah weddings are such a big hassle
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uttara said:
Ha ha, this was really funny. Lots of similarities with us. We were also “mixed,” we arranged our own wedding too…and I nearly missed the muhurtam
monikamanchanda said:
LOL would love to read ur version why don’t u take up the tag?
shilpadesh said:
Aww so much fun! We had a little too many such moments in ours too! I wish someone would tag though π¦
monikamanchanda said:
here i tag u… do it shilps π
shilpadesh said:
Yay yay! Thanku Monu!
Solilo said:
Monix, howlarious! mazaa aa gaya. I just visualized a crazy lady shouting at all and sundry. Hahaha
monikamanchanda said:
sssshh soli internet has so many ears π
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Just call me 'A' said:
ha ha ha…fun fun fun read mon…laughed my heart out….you totally deserve the blogadda pick :).
now you know one more person(couple) who arranged her (their) own wedding. Me and FAB. yours was a north south…ours was an east west :)…you did it in 6 months..we did it in 20 days π lol ….
monikamanchanda said:
wah even more funny ha π π 20 days gosh
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maverickshree said:
Hey looks like you have really an adventerous wedding..i enjoyed your post a lot π
monikamanchanda said:
thank u maverickshree and welcome here π
Lively said:
I know about one more couple who arranged their own wedding. Us! Me n my then BF now hubby. And yes some things went wrong. I will take this one up and do a post soon π
The mandap falling part was howlarious, though it might’ve been very tense and awkward situation back then. I would’ve surely died if so many things had gone wrong at my wedding. π
monikamanchanda said:
yeah do that and let me know looking forward to it
Reema said:
LOL π Wonderful post. Thankfully my wedding went smoothly enough with few minor glitches as D is Bengali Brahmin (roots in East Bengal) and I am Bengali Non Brahmin (roots in West Bengal). Female pandit? thats a new one!
The Wizard said:
Shades of “monsoon wedding “,,,,the hilarious parts
Or maybe weddings ARE a hilarious event …LOL
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