We are three sisters and its a fact that I am proud of… a thing I would probably change for nothing… I remember my childhood as a total fun time, all three of us getting together and doing all kind of girly things… pretending to cook, taking care of our barbies, combing the neighbor didi’s hair endlessly (that was the youngest one though)… whenever I think of my childhood the bond with my sisters and also the lovely mother daughter is the strongest memory I have and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in this world… And over time I have come to realize that the bond between mother and daughters just keeps growing with time whereas the bond with mother and son keeps going down… I then wonder why is that we keep wishing for boys all the time? What is that special thing they give us?
This yet another brilliant post by IHM took me down the memory lane at the time when we three sisters were enjoying the childhood in full masti and mom was bearing the brunt of it all… I am eldest and the difference between me and the youngest sis is about 9 yrs or so and so at the time when she was growing up I was big enough to feel the undercurrents flowing around when people used to visit the house… When she was born people almost sad that yet another girl is born and dad became so furious against this argument that he poured out all the love he could possibly have on her and we still tease him that u spoilt her… 😉
Mom had to listen to all kind of things that what will she do when we get married? How will she get us married? Poor them will have to probably go in a ashram in old age… who will take care of them? My uncle with a son came forward behaving that he is a god for them as his son will act as a son for my mom-dad too and help them in their time of need…
My mom and dad stood through it all all the time and kept telling us and instilling in us an amazing strength and power for independence which I personally thing is the greatest gift any parent can give their kid… a power of self confidence and independence… I am proud of my parents because they gave my greatest strength my confidence and the ability to take the world head on… which I think is one of the reasons atleast two of us have turned out to be such strong feminits
Though mom took all the taunts and pity that she was given throughout with grace and ignoring them and proudly announcing to the world that her daughters are better educated and very well settled than most of the sons of the people who troubled her…Once we started settling in our career after taking best of the education she starting getting certain amount of respect by the same people who were taunting here and the memories (I think) of those days started to fade away slowly
And then there was one incident that kinda broke her down… I still remember that evening very very clearly…
I had finished my education and was working in a good company earning a very good salary ‘for a girl’… and people around mom started to sych her up how will u ever find a boy for her… anyways so the rishtas started coming in (and lets not go into the kind of rishats that were send, it was as if they wanted to show my mom and us that daughters are indeed a pain) and we would quietly ignore most of them as I wanted more time to work etc… but then after about 2-3 years of working when I was ready for marriage and unfortunately still single, my parents started looking out for guys and giving a serious look at the rishtas that came in… they liked a boy and thought it would be a good idea to let us meet and discuss figure out if we like each other… and a mesage was sent to the parents of the boy and guess what the response came
we dont want to take this talk forward, when we sent the rishta to you we were only aware of the daughter’s education etc and we didn’t know that you have three daughters, if you haven’t got any sons than its most likely that you daughter will also produce only daughters and hence we are sorry
can u beat that???? and that came out of a very well educated family. The mother of the boy was a principal in some school. gosh if we have principals with this attitude what will the children of that school grow up to be??? That day my mom cried a lot and I just stood by her wanting to kick the world in the face not knowing how to react… I was angry with the world very angry.
And just when my anger was going away being married to the most awesome guy I could find who has never ever made a thing that he is the man and I am the wife in the relation… out relation is truly equal with some things he taking the lead and in some me… whichever way balances our skills… but not even once we have felt that one is better than the other…. yeah going back to the point just when my anger was going away I became pregnant and people started again aah I hope u have boy atleast your mom could see a grandson if not a son, me and mom would quietly reply we would be happy with a healthy baby thats it… (though I know secretly wished for a boy 😉 but was that because she wanted to see how are boys when they grow up and not because of the standard reasons)
And then when he was born and I took him to Delhi the first time… of my aunts commented saying that
chalo acha hai beta ho gaya agli baar ab tension nahin hogi, beti bhi ho gayee tou koi baat nahin… ab sab chalta hai
Imagine that statement in this time…. I got wild and replied to her that I would have been happier if it was a girl and would have been happier to make that girl a only child of mine… and what drama was created I tell u 😉 and I secretly enjoyed that
I have never really understood the obsession people have with a boy… why? I won’t say any one is better than the other… a boy or a girl… they are just children… a little human being waiting to be transformed into a big person by the parents… both need equal amount of love and affection and both present to you equal amount of charm in their own sense..
I wonder when will we as a society stop give them rules to live their childhood in a certain manner… when we will allow a boy to play with cooking toys and when we will allow a girl to go play cricket in the park… when?
PS: yesterday was Girl Child Day I wish I could do this post yesterday but nonetheless, this post is my tribute to every girl child that is about to come… this post is my tribute to every Chutki…
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yes neha u are first and what about the comment on the post 🙂
ayega ayega 😀
still waiting and thanks for that reco on twitter 🙂
Monix, Doesn’t matter when you wrote it, what matters is the message and thanks for sharing a part of your childhood. Kudos to uncle and auntie for bringing up 3 fabulous girls – well! I know one and she is fantabulous.
thank u sols 😀
“we dont want to take this talk forward, when we sent the rishta to you we were only aware of the daughter’s education etc and we didn’t know that you have three daughters, if you haven’t got any sons than its most likely that you daughter will also produce only daughters and hence we are sorry”
Hope no one married those Einsteins’ son.
i hope that too imagine in these times someone can actually think like that
Lovely post Monika!! Congratulations to your mom for having raised such an awesome daughter 😆
I loved these lines… I won’t say any one is better than the other… a boy or a girl… they are just children… a little human being waiting to be transformed into a big person by the parents… both need equal amount of love and affection and both present to you equal amount of charm in their own sense..
Now let me link your post to mine!!
thank u IHM… i truly believe in those lines and I also think that somewhere we are stealing the kids childhood away by putting too much pressure on them of such things
Thank God you didn’t get married into this -as Solilo Don puts it- Einstein’s family 🙂 Their research and their attitude makes them amazing in laws material.
“ if you haven’t got any sons than its most likely that you daughter will also produce only daughters and hence we are sorry” Didn’t they have a mother in that family?
May be her husband had children through asexual reproduction.
ROFL sols this is the best thing i have heard in ages…
god knows IHM… the extent to which people go to imagine things
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Fantastic post,Monika! I was waiting for this post to come up ever since i saw your commnent on IHM’s post.
‘My mom and dad stood through it all all the time and kept telling us and instilling in us an amazing strength and power for independence which I personally thing is the greatest gift any parent can give their kid… a power of self confidence and independence…’ Absolutely! Kudos to your parents!
As for the alliance,good that you didnt get married to the creep.any girl would be far better off staying away from such families…they are cancerous!
thanks deeps 🙂 and LOL at cancerous
I know one and a half of the 3 sisters, considering I’ve met Isha and not you, but let me tell you, you’re parents did a fab job.
You girls are absolutely crazy. And that happens only when you are encouraged to be your own person.
As for the rishta’s, well, there are horror stories that men also can share.
Should post that someday 😉
u are a joker harjee… 1 and half… hope it becomes two when i come to delhi this time 🙂
and this is so true :You girls are absolutely crazy. And that happens only when you are encouraged to be your own person.
and yes u got away with calling me crazy i like it 😉
and i am looking forward to that post and i am sure that will be a happy one
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Wonderful Monu !!! Kudos to you Mom for the way she stood up for you girls.
Such independent women !!! My God, your mom’s strong mind and action is certainly an inspiration to many.
But, these who talk – they keep talking and talking without thinking of all the hurt they cause. Its high time, that ppl start talking constructively.
its high time people start respecting women uma… high time people start taking care of girl childs its high time uma
Let every family not having a son adopt a son and every family not having a daughter adopt a daughter. Everyone gets a complete family and so many children get to have a better childhood!
Abhaya
kudos to that thought abhaya and welcome here
WTH???? I am still shocked on reading that letter! I mean its a good thing u didnt get married into that family but who has such views nowadays?
let me shock u even more HC that was not send in a letter that was said to my mom over the phone directly can u beat that?
He he I know hw it feels ..we r just 2 daughters too and never once did anyone in my family, let alone my Mom n Dad, make us feel any different. Nw that we r well settled in life, people tell my Mom n Dad – u don’t need sons when u hv gud daughters like these .. what rubbish I tell u!
Must say though that the man I respect most is my grandpa .. he hd 5 daughters but even in those times, nt one of them felt like they r any different. My Mom and 5 mausis .. I hv all feminists @ home .. hw cud I nt be one 😛 😛
Mons, btw, hv heard of this man from someone in the family who hd asked for all the marks cards while looking for a DIL 😛 😛 😛
what this is just super haan OMG :ROFL:
kudos to ur grandpa swaram we need more such people….
Super post straight from your heart Monika. I am really shocked that someone well educated gave that s*** about “if you haven’t got any sons than its most likely that you daughter will also produce only daughters and hence we are sorry” OMG can’t believe really. Your parents are such wonderful human beings. Kudos to them for instilling all the right qualities in you children.
yeah that was my reaction too I was like are we talking about some illiterate villagers?
yay thanks shail
Hugs Monu! I loved this post!!
My fave lines –
My mom and dad stood through it all all the time and kept telling us and instilling in us an amazing strength and power for independence which I personally thing is the greatest gift any parent can give their kid… a power of self confidence and independence… I am proud of my parents because they gave my greatest strength my confidence and the ability to take the world head on… which I think is one of the reasons atleast two of us have turned out to be such strong feminits
You have wonderful parents and a fantastic Support System! *touchwood*
thanks pixie super tight hugs
That’s a very good post you’ve written, Monika. Made for some compelling reading. And as IHM points out, the most shocking thing is that part where they say since you have all girls in your family, you are likely to keep getting girls only. Absolute shame. Disgustingly parochial!
it amazed me jay that people on this age still think this way
Beautiful tribute to a girl child, Monika!
‘we dont want to take this talk forward, when we sent the rishta to you we were only aware of the daughter’s education etc and we didn’t know that you have three daughters, if you haven’t got any sons than its most likely that you daughter will also produce only daughters and hence we are sorry’ Height of vulgarity. Even such an educated person(!) doesn’t know that the female hasn’t got any part in deciding the gender of the baby, it is the male chromosome…will she discard her son if a daughter is born once she knows this?
First time here and nice to know you, Monika, though you are sort of familiar after reading many comments of yours in our blogsamaj posts!
god only knows sandhya what did they study in school ?
and welcome here and yeah i know we keep seeing each other in blog samaj… thanks for coming over
My whole hearted best wishes to your parents, Monika! They are the best parents one could have!
thanks sandhya I agree
bravo!
– a mother of two daughters 😉
yeah chox here’s to more girl power 🙂
Goodness! Some people! Some people remain totally uneducated despite every fancy degree that they might possess! Good Riddance! They certainly did not deserve someone like you! The cheek! I can’t believe it that they actually sent a letter like this!
Your mother is truly impressive. It must have been so difficult in a society where people set score by the number of sons they have. It takes people like your parents to stand up proud and bring you girls up the way they did! You must be so proud to be their daughter.
this is when my belief that education is the cure to all problems shatters totally
thanks smitha
This could have been my story. Except we are 2 girls instead of 3! My parents are the only siblings from either side who did not have a boy and they had to listen to all kids of crap for that. My mom was even asked to try a third time for a boy. I am proud of the way my parents have raised us and instilled the confidence in us to face the world come what may. Every visit by relatives was an occasion to remind us that we are girls and should make rotis and dal and not sit in out rooms and read books, but we royally ignored all that!
Hugs and yays to all girls out there!
i know what u mean mean shilpa… and its so sad to see so many girls here saying this could have been my story 😦
yay more to girl power… may it only increase
“Every visit by relatives was an occasion to remind us that we are girls and should make rotis and dal and not sit in out rooms and read books, but we royally ignored all that!”
Shilpa this is experienced everywhere. We heard this too 🙄
yeah IHM I guess every girl who doesn’t work in the kitchen gets to hear that from ‘WELL MEANING RELATIVES’
Hi-I came here through the link on IHM’s blog and loved your post. I am a mom with two daughters and the reactions of “people” sounds so very familiar-a generation passes by and nothing changes with this society?
I am so glad to find some people who can appreciate the joy of bringing up a daughter!
sigh I thought the things would probably be a little better in this generation but alas… hypermom we can be and should be the catalyst to this change…
by raising more girls who will grow up to be strong mothers who raise their kids (irrespective of boys or girls) to respect all gender’s equally
why do i feel its my story…when i gave birth to aditya, everyone was like chalo acha hai, ab agli baar ki chinta nahin hai…
why this attitude towards girls, i dont know…its so sad…
when will it change jaya i really am clueless and hopeless
You know Mon, my son is the first boy in 4 generations in my mother’s side of the the family. And what a huge issue it has been, my mother regrets, that my ‘nani’ is no more to enjoy a ‘boy’ finally, my aunt says, she wished she could tell some of her in-laws now, that boys are born to women from her family, and many more such crap. it just pisses me off so bad. So if I had a daughter instead of a son, what would they have done? And then I have grown up all my life, hearing my mother go on and on about how having a daughter means a hopeless old age for parents.
Its just sad and sickening.
its all very very sad just me… very sad… I hope WE change the things and make it better for the generation to come
I guess it’s only the Delhi aunties who can do that. I also sincerely hope that these days when women have started to work full time (like mine does) they would have lesser time for all this crap. I have never managed to understand why would anyone prefer boy babies to girl babies or vice versa. I was brought up being taught that it’s strictly The Good Lord’s wish what he wants to bless us with. You’re so true where you say that kids are kids first and need affection and care equally. I seriously doubt how demented our society is that considers one gender to be better than the other for conceiving.
As far as the reply that came to your parents about your mother having three daughters only and no sons, well I can only say let’s not consider them human at all. I always say God gave only so much of brains to some people. It’s not their fault if their thinking is ‘that’ pathetic.
But, I strongly refuse to believe that it is only the boy’s family who are capable of giving such weird replies. I’ve been through a stage when I had extremely weird replies from the parents of prospective brides and they seriously were too demented. It’s a pity that such people also exist in this world. Unfortunately, there’s no utopia and we would never enjoy it too. My mother is handicapped and all families did not want to marry their princely daughters into a family which has a patient who could drop dead anytime. Or rather, it was because they did now know for sure how long would she survive. But that’s another post, that I’m too shy to talk about.
u know ramit I used to think that too that only aunties in delhi can do it but no living in blore for about 8 yrs now and being a part of the family which is part telegu part tamilian I have realised its the same sad story everywhere but yes I agree when the females are working the frequency of this nonsense goes down… 🙂 time is one thing also their outlook towards life changes as their confidence in self and the power a woman holds increases
I so wish that we could learn that simple truth as a society ramit… may be will start with this generation, with u and me and all those people who have commented here and at IHM’s
oh yes I agree with u with what u are saying, sometimes girl’s family does hazar kind of useless nautanki too.. I myself had a friend who refused to marry to a very very good guy because he had 4 sisters and she would have to fulfill the responsibilty all life, I gave her royally for that… my point when I mentioned that incident was not that GUYS families think they are great but my point was that someone still thinks like that 😦
I know these situations are tough but there are always some good and sensible people in this world ramit and i am glad u found one
last but not the least thanks for visiting my blog
Also, the society is down to the dogs now that probably we’re the only country which has made gender check illegal. Isn’t it free to know the gender of the baby on the first ultrasound in other countries? How’s that for Incredible India?
yeah I know but just think of it ramit even when the gender check is illegal, female infanticide is so high… what would happen if we make it legal? I think these measures though they curtail the freedom of a common man are needed till as a society we learn to behave responsibly
our society is filled with quirks of all kinds. till such time it was because of illiteracy it was still understandable…but when civilized educated society behaves unreasonably then it is very hard to digest. We once had a neighbor who went on trying to have a male child and produced 8 daughters in the effort. The trouble is these things are so personal that if someone were to make a comment it would either border on rudeness or invading privacy. So the mute spectator was born. Now if a billion odd people become mute spectators,then imagine the underbelly of our society.
yeah that is what fails me… even after being educated all this? uff 8 girls and then because of so many children he would not be able to afford good education etc for them and it would become a total vicious circle
yeah i understand what u are saying gyanban but someone has to put a stop to it isnt it? else it will just keep getting worst
I know what you mean Mon, I too was furious when during my god bharai all the old hags kept giving me aashirwad for having a boy. It took a lot to keep my temper under control then…damn just thinking abt it pisses me off!
yeah i know what u mean avanti there was this one lady who even came upto me to give a tip to make sure the kid will be a boy when i was pregnant 3 months as if I can change it now 🙂
If we have school principals who think the sex of a child is determined by the mother, then god help our children and country…
In their quest to have a boy, people have forgotten what is really important – a healthy child…It’s amazing how the first question out of people’s lips when a baby is born is “Is it a boy or girl?” instead of “Is the baby healthy?”…
yeah thats what i was left wondering… ironic isn’t it? we forget that they are kids are think of them only as boys/girls
alas 😦
Loved this post Monika. I am one of two sisters and can relate a lot to this. As I read this, I am thinking sometimes is it not better to know ahead what people think and is it not a boon that such rishtas do not progress and you end up with the right guy?
oh yes laksmi it is indeed a boon but think of someone would have gone stuck there right… think if the son had daughters what would the dil had to go throw
shudders at the thought
Totally agree with Lakshmi… At the same time, I hope and pray that they get a super strong feminist DIL!!! Hahahahah someone to set them straight, wat say? 😉
ya i hope it serves them right but then I go back and think that no no girl ever deserves this family
loved reading the post… !! getting an insight into your growing up… !
More so getting an insight into the growin up of girls… being three brothers we never felt that way… in a lot of ways I have learnt how women think after reading blogs… !
In real life I still havent seen females speaking their minds as much !
But seriously like Racism, sexism isnt born its taught by humans… !
yeah hitchy we have been taught all our lives not to speak up our minds
and I loved ur last line so so so true
I could relate to every single line in this post. I wish and hope that some day, this world will change into a better one!! and aise logon ke to sach me keede lagein! 😛
sigh it pains me nova to read so many comments saying that they relate to this post… sigh we will change the world toegther
and LOL at keede lagein 😉
My God…how people think… isn’t it disgusting? And have you noticed how many WOMEN think this way, as compared to the men who say such things?! Crazy world we live in.
Btw, Mon, congrats on being Blog-Adda-ed 🙂 Very good post!
yeah a totally crazy world unbelievably sad sometimes 😦
and thanks for pal
Hey, congratulations for being picked by Blogadda…
thanks bones
it was fun reading it..
ok.. grand salute to massi n massi’s mum too
and i can imagine massi’s journey of raising such crazy daughters.. but its amazing how all of you turned out so so different..
yeah yeah massi’s mum too 100% 😀
Awsm Post!! I really luved it….To Hell with ppl who r still immature enuf to differentiate between guys n gals…U said it well dere—a boy or a girl… they are just children…
keep writing!!
yeah in all this hang ups we forget about their childhood sigh
welcome here naveen
Awesome post! I thank providence that as a girl child I came after such a long line of boys that I was made much of! I admire your parents’ for the fortitude and courage.
yeah such is the state of our country
Lovely post. straight from the heart. and the way some people think…make me feel so mad!
yeah i know what u mean neha
Straight from the heart.
Bravo… to your mom and you too 🙂
thanks rashmi
Hi Monika
You have presented the whole thing very nicely… i mean, a very graceful yet strong protest.
“gosh if we have principals with this attitude what will the children of that school grow up to be???”
and you know, you are not the only one who know about such principal or school teachers. I did my study from a school meant for girls’ only and the some of teachers there were just like this. They were more interested in criticizing and punishing girls for wearing nail polish, or having trendy haircuts… rather than teaching their subjects. All the time they talked about strict rules for girls as if we have done something wrong by being born as girls. Unfortunately, they were also mothers of children. I wonder what they used to teach their children at home!
So, the root of this problem lies in our education at the vwry basic level where such thoughts are infused in tender minds. I think all our schools and colleges need to be co-educational.
thanks moon 🙂
yeah i know what u mean somehow when it comes to the schooling of girls these things much more important than education after all girls are just groomed for marriage thats it
i always used to think that education is the cure of all problems but when I see educated people like these bevahing i wonder what could be the solution
thanks for stopping over moon
Great article. you know, we are also three sisters and I have heard somewhat same comments from people. When I meet someone, when I answer them that we are three sisters, they ask: “oh! no brother?”
me: “no, we are three siblings.”
they, “oh! how sad!”
Don’t know when will people learn.
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shilpa
i hope our generation changes it shilpa… i so hope that
Great post… Wondering which school it is to have such a terrible principal, that too a woman… gosh will this society ever change? Any way thanks for reminding the world that we (girl child) just rock the world.
oh there are such schools all over deblina… read moon’s comment…
yeah we do rock 😀 😀
and thanks for stopping by my space
That is the sickest, most idiotic thing ppl have said to ur parents!
The MIL constantly asks ppl who have 2 girls, “are u done? Do u not want someone to carry on d family name?”.. So, being the evil person I am, I hope I have 2 girls and I give them a part of my surname 😀
he he he mil’s like this are all over and amen to ur wish dee 😉 u know we have given ojas my name too… infact the name of ojas is a story in itself let me post it 🙂
You have kind of echoed my thoughts in this post. It stirred my emotions! Very well written.
thanks a lot for the kind words lakshmi and welcome here
Hi Monika,
I visited your blog yesterday and came across this post. We are three sisters and my parents faced comments like “oh, you have 3 daughters, hmmm…now what are you going to do?” My parents’ response was “what are we going to do? educate them well and make them independent so that they can face life with confidence and positive attitude”. They lived up to their words and today we all are well-settled. The same people who commented seek my parents’ advice on how they managed to educate us well, given that we were settled in a very small town in Andhra Pradesh.
The environment was very conservative in that town while we growing up. We had to travel 28kms by bus to the college and guess what some people commented “Doctor, make sure your daughters do not sit next to boys, or talk to them. Girls tend to lose their reputation the moment they go to college”. Phew!!!!!!!!!!!! My father said “well, I trust them and even if they talk to boys I do not mind. What is wrong if friends talk to each other? They will not lose reputation, in fact they will study well and I am confident of that” Free advice was flowing from every direction. People who had nothing better to do were always available to remind my parents about having three daughters and they always got a fitting yet polite replies from my parents. The fact that my mother was the first lady doctor in the town also invited comments. Some people told my father, who is also a doctor, to stop mom from going to clinic because women are meant to stay at home. My parents ignored all this, set up a clinic and started practicing medicine.
Every now and then, when people visited us they expressed their “sympathies”. “Three girls, doctor. It may be difficult to get them married. May be, you should not educate them furtherafter they complete their degree”. My father and mother used to reply “well, we are prepared to educate them, they are ready to study, why are you worried?” The attitude of the changed after we all completed our masters, took up jobs, got married and now settled. Now the comments are like “Doctor, your daughters are settled well. It does not make a big difference be it a son or daughter. They are all equal.” contrast this with the comments “wish you had a boy, doctor. Having 3 daughters may be a burden”.
I am mother of a daughter and am thoroughly enjoying raising her. Why do people give so much importance to gender? I sometimes face comments “it is time to have a boy, then you can close the account”. I wonder if people would have said “it is time to have a girl, then you can close the account”, in case I had a boy. My husband quickly responds ” we don’t mind if we have a girl again. Girls are very sweet”. Be it a boy or girl, they are precious to parents. I do not see any reason why mothers with boys are considered superior to those who have boys. The fact that educated people also discriminate makes me wonder when will people change? Just live and let people who have daughters live…should be the simple mantra.
Cheers,
Sandhya
A small typo in my comment. 5th line from bottom “Why mothers with boys should be considered superior to those have daughters?”. Sorry about this.
Cheers,
Sandhya
I have a 3yr old son and have just given birth to a second son. I wanted a daughter badly. I am depressed and dont know what to do. People say that you have a balanced family if you have one boy and one girl than if you have 2 boys. sons get detach from mother as they grow older . Please guide me, I am in very bad state of mind.. Please do reply..
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It was interesting. You seem very knowledgeable in your field.
Post was indeed good. Chucking the stigma of boy child. My mom often nags me with a taunt,”Kaash tu meri ladki hoti toh mere liye kam se kam chaai toh banati.” 😛
ah monika i now think the obnoxious principal has a sister who stayed behind in Pakistan come ’47…i remember some people moving into our neighbourhood and when they came a-calling on us (thats my g/father, mom, and my sis and me) they asked my mom why she didnt marry my g/father when dadi died…”you would have had a son by now”. Widow. Two Daughters. And to not think of such a good opportunity to have sons….we found it so funny then, but I wonder about their twisted minds now.
I am a bit curious about Pallakhus query. Did she think it was something in what your parents ate that they had three daughters. I will not think of the other naughty conclusions I can draw from this question.
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Wow that is a beautifully written post 🙂 Well my mom n dad wr also blessed wid two daughters me n my lil sis. You know when she(lil sis) was born my dad was so happy and decided to give methai to all ppl in the hospital. An old man tuk the sweet and said so what will you name your boy? My dad said oh its a lovely girl 🙂 not a boy..imagine that man threw the methai n spit the thing from his mouth in a sevage nearby x-( …disgusting. i was small if i had been any bigger i wud have scratched his face and asked him how the hell he was born…if there were no girls how cud these ppl get a mom sis or even a wife..? Sad ppl sad theories..i have seen many ppl try several things to get a boy. even today they do so..i tell you, drinking a goat’s milk won’t give u a boy child 😀 ha ha ..stupid ppl!
Very well written Mons..I can almost imagine how it must have been..
Well written. Some people don’t realise that life without a daughter is so incomplete. A daughter is the most wonderful gift any parent can wish for.
lovely post Monica….ppl who don’t have daughter will never know the meaning of love..but our society is too obsessed with boys, even though they know that its the daughters who really take care of their old parents. I was the fifth daughter to my parents, most unwelcomed, so when I got sick, it was not an issue to worry about, why would my granny bother wasting money on my treatment?, (u met me so u know what I mean)
congrats on ur post as tangy picks
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Hey,
hello. I am a Pakistani women and I came across your blog randomly.
I really like your post. I really felt connected to your article because my parents have just daughters (no sons) and your mother’s experiences are similar to my mother. Infact, I have actually heard half of the dialogues that you have posted before.
I like that you stress on gender equality, afterall, we are all humans.
I also haven’t been able to understand people’s fascination with a male child. What amazes me is that most of the time, it is the women who promote this belief. I think it is indoctrination, but we can change it and we need strong women like you who can propagate the idea that girls and boys are equal.
The very fact that your parents have had 3 children, is because they probably hoped the third would be a boy. TRUST ME YOUR LIFE HAS BEEN AWESOME because you dont have the 3rd child as a BROTHER.
In our house, our lucky parents went on to have a third child to be THEIR GOD SEND SON !! We have to leave for him the two floor house we constructed together … now worth CRORES.
All PROPERTY will be showered on the SON !!
After a while they forget the days spent with the daughters.
Daughters coming home is unwanted to the Daughter in Law.
Our Parents tell us outrightly that we cant have things.
We feel terrible.
You should have said something rude to the principle lady
She was bloodly unpar gavar
What does she bloody teach her students
Or you should have given her some education on sperms
Seriously what is wrong with these people
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