PS: personal rants here
This holi the colors seem to be missing from my life.. Me and N fought on Sunday evening… now obviously its not the first time in last 5 yrs that we have fought, we keep doing that all the time… infact I strongly believe that little fights are neccessary for marriage… they keep relationship sane…
But this time its been different… we fought on sunday and its been 3 days we havent spoken to each other… and now this is surely happening for the first time in 5 yrs… usually we make sure if we fight we dont sleep over it… but this time I am wondering whats coming inbetween… whats stopping us, why are our egos becoming bigger than the relation???
The issue is not at all something big but still both of us are hanging on to it…
Though holi is not really celebrated in blore but every year we make sure we do something on it… collect some friends and play but this year owing to the ego both of us planned nothing… the result he has gone to work and i am sulking at home and blogging… may be I should it take it as a cue and think that god wanted me to play holi differently this year as suggested here and here
Anyways hope things will settle down soon… till than u guys have a happy holi…
Monika's World 
awww…babes… why don’t you take the first step and end this thing? have a heart to heart over coffee…why don’t u call him and ask him out on a date?
take care..
hm… if the quarrel is really bothering, why don’t you let go of your ego and make it up?
//infact I strongly believe that little fights are neccessary for marriage
Even I believe so … but its happening in our life every now and then these days ** sigh**
Happy Holi dear (( hugs)) Cheer up!!
ok so even if u missed holi( and u wud know that i almost recommend missing that festival) u guys shud make up!and soooooon!! may be u can make up and then plan a post holi dinner fr friends or smthing like that?
Hope things settle down soon and you still have the remaining part of the day to celebrate then. Keeping fingers crossed 🙂
(((hugs)))
Monika I am no expert on this but I think Imps mom has the best idea:)
go invite him!:)
kiss and make up;)
((hugs))
Happy Holi:)
Nimmy((hugs))darl 🙂
Happy Holi Monika! I am sure things will get sorted out soon. Why don’t you make some yummy sweets to end it all today evening.:)
With so much sane advise already given, I think I will simply wish you a Happy Holi. Let the colours within keep playing. When he comes back in the evening, your holi might just start!
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But ya, Happy Holi 🙂
Awww… Monika, I’m so sorry to hear that. Now Ojas ke baapu (sorry, Solilo, sweetheart, don’t sue me for copyright violation) won’t take the first step – its one of those guy things apparently. So you can’t just let him make himself and you miserable, now, can you? So talk – its the best solution. I agree with Imp’s mom, nothing like a coffee date to talk away the blues. Just remember those initial days of wooing each other, and you’ll get the idea.
(((Hugs))) and hope you silly lovebirds sort it out soon. And when you do, you can always demand whatever you’ve wanted for long as compensation for taking the first step. 🙂 Whaddya say?
Cheer up and fill you home with colour. Love!
aww did y’all make up yet? we had soemthing like this last night too. he slept. i kept up reading online stuff and staring at him in the dark. in the morning, when i woke up he was all apologizing and lovey dovey. all’s well that ends well. :)))
im sure u guys are back in love already! 🙂
in a fite with someone you love, its not a defeat if one backs down … but its also important that both sides opinions have been heard…a fite is a difference of opinion…its your mind refusing to hear…initiate the talk….understand and be understood..love stands even when we dont agree on things..differences only shows us the facets that we havent explored before and loved…
happy holi…
I also had many cold wars like that but then one day i thought…he wil hardly change:) and this way I am passing so many days of my life without living, and then if I am able to enjoy without talking its finme, but if I am not happy then why not talk for your own happiness:), so now i always think that i am taking the it makes me feel better and then later on I sort out the problem also when both of us are communicating:)
Wishing you a happy Holi and a sorting !
@Imp’s Mom,
that sounds like an idea…
@–xh–,
i know i should have actually done that two days back but somewhere this time my ego popped… it shouldnt have 😦
anyways we made up
@GM,
ur sweets idea partly worked thanks 😉
@Tys on ice,
i know and i usually try not to drag it but this time somehow all sense left me 🙂 all is well now thanks for some sensible words… when one’s ego becomes big these words help a lot
hey, i am reading this late and am hoping that u guys have spoken to each other.. if not pick up the phone now… comon..nothing is worth this “not talking”
@Iya,
oh we are back to normal 🙂 and i agree there is nothing worht “not talking” I think the devil took over my mind this time
Hey !!
Fighting is normal !! very normal and I do tooo … but follow a simple rule…. fight argue quarrel… but never stop talking… talk it out, argue it out !!! But never stop talking… me and wife follow that simple rule !
as i see in the comments you have already come back to normal… 🙂
Cheers !!
Whats a relationship without arguments eh !
Awww…….I am sorry.I know how that feels. Did not play Holi myself this time. God knows what went into Hubby’s head. He absolutely refused to play. 😦
Hope things are better for us next year.
@hitch writer,
agreed dhiren and thats what i said in my post… i am all for a fight now and then it actually does good to the relation and on a normal basis we do what u have mentioned too but this time it got bad but all is well that ends well and it has so 🙂
aww..have you made up? The G and I had a fight yet again! And we havent spoken since morning. I`m tempted to, seeing a box of chocolates and two beautiful scented candles on the counter top. But he didnt say they`re for me. 😦 I dont know if its wise to make the first move or not. BUt if it makes you feel better, go ahead. I think I will..
@Piper,
bo of chocs and candles… i would have melted away instantly if that happened 😉 and N never never tells me a gift is for me… he just keeps that at various places in the house to discover… once i have actually missed the gift and kept sulking that i havent got any gift this valentines
sigh these men
I am sure life is good now, and i am sure the colors are back with a bang
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