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Yesterday night I had a sudden urge to go have a ice cream and that too at Corner house… actually I have been having that urge from quite sometime now but ignoring it from sometime but yesterday it was like I NEED ONE… blore is too hot u know
While on the way to CH we saw a girl walking on the road alone carrying some luggage, it was about 10:20 in the night and road was fairly empty but not deserted… the first thing hubby said after seeing her was oh so blore can still be trusted to go out like that
And the first thing that came out of my mouth was what is the option one has… its not the trust it’s the need….
Well the argument between us continued for sometime on this and we discussed various aspects of it…
He said that she could have taken someone along, my point is that WHY? Till how long will women need to have a company of man to be safe, to feel safe.
I personally think its high time women take their security in their own hands… carry a knife, a pepper spray (I always carry one from a long time), have ur help numbers handy…. go enroll urself in quick Tai chi or self defense class, I did take one couple of years back and trust me it does wonder to ones confidence level…. be safe ofcourse but dependent not anymore…
I think its high time we take action and stand up for our own security
Though he didn’t agree to all of what I had to say and insisted that we should not be taking such a risk… I know where he is coming from, he is worried for me… but this is what we have to change… the fact that if a women steps out of the house alone we should have a reason to worry….
What are your thoughts on it?
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She should be able to go free atleast in Gujarat, in my hometown its absolutely fine… girls go alone at 2 am after garba’s and its no trouble at all no sweat…
but i now live in Indore and I am kinda worried if she has to go alone after say 11, once the streets are deserted…
It should change… but till it doesnt you have to be careful !
After the recent Bangalore attacks, I decided I needed to take a self defense course ASAP. The fact is we can not not go out, that is just not possible for many.
If you have a car, then you can be saved a little, but what if you do not, and you rely on autos, you need to walk to get to one and that means walking on the roads alone. So I think self defense is the only way out.
I also need to get a pepper spray…
Wow Monika I am so happy to read another person say that!!!
I am totally with you. And if more nad more women keep coming out half the problems are over, there is safety in numbers. If the government had any concern they will not force all shops to shut at any fixed time, when there are people on the road, one eels safer (and that feeling gives confidence) … I could go on and on on this one topic.
I was a durpok billi (everybody still thinks I am that) so I went out of my way to learn to drive well, and then drive after dark and gradually anytime it is needed (since my husband is away a lot)… I definitely feel better. And I have a special torch, a mobile charger, a golf club (LOL YES, YOU CAN LAUGH)… all to feel safer 🙂 But I don’t stop going out.
I live in Haryana, where if a 50 year old is out after 10 p.m., cops get on her case and insist she goes home or gets her 19 year old son to escort her …….
I attempted to argue and they said “You’ll get raped and robbed”
Dammit! Even cops cant ensure safety
Completely with you there Monika. We should know how to deal with our troubles, and be strong and capable instead of the weak, helpless victim. Nip the goons in the bud I say!
yup – it si high time women take their safety on their own hands.. as you said, till when can one depend on guys? take a self defense class like kick-boxing, it can work wonders..
yup! taking care of ourselves is the only way out. me want a pepper spray too. shall do it soon enough!
cheers!
Bravo monika..I love your spirit and attitude.. And i ahve no wonder for the origin of your attitude,for you have lot fo self-confidence in addition to pepper srays and kunfu classes 🙂 Maybe i need those classes to boost up my confidence .. But til then,as Dhiren told,folks like me better take care by not going out alone in late ngiht..
completely!absolutelywoth you on this one!to take matters in our own hands…all very wisely ofcourse and well thought out and all that..and not be foolhardy…
yes,yes and yes..
we have to be prepared..
I have learned Taekwondo as a teenager. I am a Green belt but even then sometimes it just doesn’t help with fanatic idiots. I would suggest that one always keep pepper spray.
completely agree with you. We should really do something about it. Cant expect the world to come protect us every time we want to have an ice cream at night! I always carry a pepper spray and a small pocket knife! I wonder if that`s of any use but it certainly makes me feel brave! :):)
i couldn’t read beyond corner house….sigh…i want my hot fudge sundae!!!!
ok, read thru…we have to be strong to take care of ourselves and learn self defence…i wish it was made mandatory in every school…it would do wonders for the young women out there…
@hitch writer,
oh i have heard that abt gujrat and u know blore used to such too… but it pains me to see my city change like this because some goons… i know what u mean but dhiren till we start standing up it will change
@ritu,
oops… thats like what the #$Z%^… can u ask them if some pevert really has weapons and is out to rape than how will a 19 year old son help??? and what the heck they are for????
@Suma,
lol!!! where u based out? u in blore currently if yes than we should meet up for a HCF…
now thats a great idea… making it mandatory in school and instead of asking girls to be afraid teaching them to be confident and stand up for themselves… i like that but then u never know, see how sex education in schools is rcvd though I personally think its a necessity
@–xh–,
100% with u on that these things boost the confidence a lot
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@nimi,
i know what u are saying… but the point is that we need to raise up to it… we need to stand up for ourself and build our confidence… we need to do whatever it takes to get that and till we do that it’ll never become a safe place… its like cycle nimi and somewhere we need to take a lead
and thanks for coming by and commenting… hope to see u here more often now 🙂
i know!!!! i am fed of being told that too! even if we r a group of girls goin out, a guy is expected to be around! unless we have a pyjama party at home!! sheesh! 😦
i so agree with suma….schools shud have mandate self-defense class…stupid needlework class…why not karate?!!!! haieeee ya!!!!! 😀
well, for all you know, that girl mustv been out alone becos she was carrying some self defense stufff or maybe is a martial arts teacher or so so…. 🙂
btw, wat do you think of helping out a girl like that? that is, offering her a lift? i hear thats not safe either! or offer to walk her to her destination
@Avaran,
thats my whole problem WHY WHY WHY do u need to help her? why cant we handle our lives ourself…
Tell me if it was a man walking on the road alone will u still think of the options u mentioned?
then why the difference?
@Craftyshines,
i think thats the only solution… karate is the way to go 🙂